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by **Sabre** » Thu Mar 26, 2009 9:41 pm

Lando_Griffin wrote:Any bint hit me, she'd be out the door quicker than a Chinaman's orgasm.

I thought the same thing.

The girl I mentioned before started shooting dishes to me. You can't hit her, because you're a gent.

So what you do? you dump her. Easy no? I left her and went to my house.

At 2 am I got a sms that said "take care of my dogs". I feared the worst, and I went to her home, I had to enter her home from the balcony, and she was in the floor. I slapped her, and make her barf and called 112. It was the worst night in my life, I learned things like the dosis of sleeping pills are thought so that a full go isn't lethal. I had to search between the vomit the pills so that I could know whay she ate. Not nice.

My friends told me it was not my fault, that she was mad. But no matter what reason says mate, if she had died that night I'm sure I wouldn't have got over it. When people is so depressed or so mad to throw you dishes or jars, then she/he may be mad to do the worst.

From there I hadn't the balls to dump her again, so I just tried to provoke she dumped me. It was only a year, but a year that it was a nightmare. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger they say, but I'd preffer to have saved that lesson in my life.

by **tubby** » Thu Mar 26, 2009 9:58 pm

That's really sad Sabre. I hope she is a bit more stable now.

by **Sabre** » Thu Mar 26, 2009 10:15 pm

bavlondon wrote:That's really sad Sabre. I hope she is a bit more stable now.

Yep she is, fortunately. Thank you mate.

by **kazza 1** » Fri Mar 27, 2009 12:21 am

Lando_Griffin wrote:Any bint hit me, she'd be out the door quicker than a Chinaman's orgasm.

Lando.. I used to say that. My motto was No man will ever lift his hand to me cause I would kill him. I lived with a guy for 5 years and he was everything a woman could have wanted in a man. I married him on the 22nd of August 2007, which was the happiest day of my life. Within a week he had changed. I was not allowed to talk to other men. I had to wear clothes that he checked to see if they where ok and we where married 3 weeks when he 1st kicked the cr@p outta me (the reason.. I did not have the dinner ready for him coming home from work, even though I worked full time) For 5 years I took this abuse. Everything from a broken wrist, countless black eyes, a suspected broken jaw, 4 cracked ribs and a scar under my left eye where I was punched so hard that under my eye spilt open and that just the things he done cause I annoyed him. I have been drugged (he made pizza and put blow on it and never told me) and God knows what else.
I always said that if a man hit me I would hit him back. But the shock of him hitting me stunned me. I could not believe that if he loved me as much as he said he did, he could lift his hand without a 2nd thought. My saving grace was my son. He seen a lot of what happened and he begged me to leave. He thought that I was not gonna walk away alive. So if it was not for him, I would probably be dead now. Jay was only 13 when I left (and before anyone does the maths.. the guy I marrried was not Jays dad) but if it had not been for him I would not be here today.
I'm not disagreeing with you are saying but until it happens to you, you dont know what you will do.

by **Kharhaz** » Fri Mar 27, 2009 12:57 am

I was talking to my missus about this the other day. Actually it started with my reasons as to why women shouldnt be boxing. My argument threw her completely. I said can you imagine if shes the sort that likes to beat her old man up? I mean what chance does he have? As a gent he doesnt hit women so to make it worse shes now a boxer and hes a living punching bag !

What got us onto that conversation was my mum. All her life she has been very unstable and a very hateful and vengeful woman. She doesnt make friends, she makes potential enemies. She drove my dad away and my step dad through violence and of course me and my brothers had a great time as kids, especially when she hit the fanta. One thing we noticed though, through growing up, that there are a lot of women like her. And all have the same characteristics. Hate the world and everyone in it. And always, to put on a front for other people, they appear to be the nicest people of all time. It doesnt take a lot to anger them, turn up late, miss an appointment or put something off, and thats it, they snap. My mum fell out with her best friend because she had to go to hospital as her mum was taken in. My mum went nuts sending text message after text to tell her what she thinks of her. But like I said, shes not the only one.

There are a lot of unstable women out there. But not a lot of help for them. And what help there is, they put on there butter wont melt attitude and alls good. The worst thing about people like these, is having to experience them for yourself, you can never get your mind around why they are like that, and most likely spend the rest of your life trying to figure it out.

by **GYBS** » Fri Mar 27, 2009 9:49 am

Im really sorry to hear about all that Kazza and im really glad you got out of their and showed the courage along with your son to leav ehim . Hope life is a lot better for you now.

by **simolonge** » Fri Mar 27, 2009 10:26 am

I have had a fair few kickings off Mrs Simolonge when I have got in late after a night on the sauce with th lads.

by **dawson99** » Fri Mar 27, 2009 10:32 am

There is a thin line between your bird slapping you during an arguament and having an abusive spouse. I remember a few heated rows in my past where i may have been slapped once or twice, would never hit back of course... that is completely different to what the thread is about though.

by **kazza 1** » Fri Mar 27, 2009 12:06 pm

GYBS wrote:Im really sorry to hear about all that Kazza and im really glad you got out of their and showed the courage along with your son to leav ehim . Hope life is a lot better for you now.

Thanks GYBS. Life is a hell off a lot better for me and my son now.

But as Dawson said there is a difference between your missus giving you a slap during a heated argument than her beating you up on a regular basis. I think every woman in the world has slapped their other half during an arugment and its probably been done when drink is involved. Domestic violence can happen any time, day or night.
Domestic violence does not just involve actual bodily contact. Sometimes it involves belittling the person or making them feel worthless. Being verbally abused can be just as bad, if not worse, than being beaten. Pysical injuries heal over time but mental ones take a lot longer. Even after getting away from the abusive partner, the mental scars can continue to effect the victim, even in new relationships. In these cases men are afraid to go to the police. Because there are no phyical injuries, men think they will be laughed at and not taken seriously, which is way they never report it.

by **Toffeehater** » Fri Mar 27, 2009 3:32 pm

lakes10 wrote:
Toffeehater wrote:Is leaving his "wife" not a option ?

wish it was, what tends to happen is that the wife tracks them down, this did happen the other week, the guy asked his mate if he could stay with him, that night his wife drove around till she found him , burnt out the car then tried to kick down the door. the police said they will look into the car thing but that was about it, since then she has tracked him down a few times, this would not happen if he was in a shelter and got the advice he needed.

in things like this what tends to happen it builds up over years, first they will start to tell you they dont like your friends, they they make it hard to go out with them, them they make things up about them, by that time your friends dont call you, then they start asking you why you tok so long at the shops, then the hits start coming, by this time you think its all your fault, you think that you can not leave her as it will hurt her, you start to her things like "you made me do that " after they hit you......and the man falls for it. it happens just the same to women.

they dont know they should leave as they start to think its the norm and they make the other preson angry and thats why they get hit.

That's too bad , real feel for this guy . Well lakes i really hope you can find some way to help him , all the best mate

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