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by **Smeg** » Sat Feb 24, 2007 9:43 pm

(yes another one of me insightful threads but this ones serious, help needed)

Ok, Ive been seeing this lass since last satday, weve been going out since monday now. Last saturday, were at a party, sitting on leather couch in the club, eating each others face off. This lad is there; me and him are sort of mates, by this i mean we say orite and have small convos now and again. Hes just split up from some long term relationship and seemed to be on the pull.

I go for a pis$, upon re-entering the room hes sittin down next to me lasso, fair dos she gets up n sits on me knee next to him. They got talking and she and my other mates bird (were best mates and theyve been going out since december) take this :censored:

outta him in a joking way about him looking gay and emo.

Next day he adds her on myspace, and has her mobile number, me and her go to the cinema on the monday and were a couple since then. He also adds my mates bird and chats to both of em thru myspace.

Last night it was arranged that me and her, and my mate and his bird, along with another couple, are going to a bar then a night club. However we left most th organising to the girls and they invite the lad aswell; this makes 3 couples and one single lad.

That night, at different points, he has my bird and also my mates sitting on his knee at diff times, not touching em on the leg or owt, just on his knee and talking about some emo band drivel etc.

By this point ive had enough; texting her/sitting on his knee/ coming along with 3 couples, it all seems like hes tagging along too much. So in the club i ask him for a word (it later transpires that my bird was concerned i felt threatened by him or such)

Me him and me mate have a short chat, i tell him i was annoyed that he seemed to be after her or my mates girl. He says he wouldnt do that, theyre all just "friends" and anyway "mates come before girls" which seems like bolloc*s since we are hardly what youd class mates.

Also, amongst his chatter he used the phrase "you got there first" - this concerns as it sounds like he was gonna make a move, despite the fact ive been after her since october and he has known her the last 6 days.

She was also wearing his tie (yes people, a skull tie with red shirt, fuc*ing scenester cun*) and my necklace.

Night ends with him snogging some other bird, and me walking me bird to the taxi rank/kiss good night etc.

So, should I be worried? Also, when is the time right to take action and what should be done? Hit the cun*? More words with him ? words with her?

Also will i appear a control freak if i take action too soon etc?

Help please, this is seriously grating on me.

by **stoney** » Sat Feb 24, 2007 10:12 pm

If she really likes you then you've got nothing to worry about. If she doesnt then she may fall for this emo guy. If she does this then she wern't worth it in the first place.

by **Rafa D** » Sat Feb 24, 2007 10:20 pm

I'd mention it to her now mate, its probably not the best idea as she will get defensive and you will probably argue but at least then she will know your concerns and probably secretly be quite flattered.

If you whack him it will end in tears,

by **Lando_Griffin** » Sun Feb 25, 2007 5:42 am

If I were you, I'd wait until you're alone with your girl and just say casually "Hey - you know Clarence? (or whatever his name is) - I think he's got a crush on you!" (Laugh, then she won't get defensive.) Add a "What do you think?" if she isn't forthcoming with a response.
Then wait for her to leap in with something along the lines of "Well it's tough luck for him if he has, cos I only want you, blah, blah, blah."

Or "Ha - he's gay/ugly/too short/fat/skinny, etc, etc."

Anything short of her telling you he's got no chance, or if she seems too intrigued/uncomfortable, spells trouble IMHO.

Chances are, she thinks he's a nice lad to talk to and have a laugh with.

If he keeps flirting with her - spell it out in no uncertain terms that he's skating on thin ice.

If he oversteps the mark after that, or if he ends up getting your girl - knock his f*cking head off. :;):

by **Woollyback** » Sun Feb 25, 2007 9:52 am

hump your new bird bareback, get her up the duff (and give her the clap in the process). not ideal i'll concede, but at least it'll mean this emo kid won't be interested in her any more

by **daxy1** » Sun Feb 25, 2007 11:20 am

first off smeg go to this blert's house in the day on your own if your with your mate he will think you are a pussy and cant sort things on your own then tell him to back off or you will beat the livin hell out of him if he carries on get him in work or colledge or were the little numpty goes and slap him silly in front of his mates and make sure you hurt him!

by **Bad Bob** » Sun Feb 25, 2007 1:40 pm

Excellent! A Smeg in Love thread...it's been too long! :laugh:

Can't wait for Jonny Mac to chime in on this one. He'll sort you out, lad. Something to do with pulling fat birds, I expect!

by **Bad Bob** » Sun Feb 25, 2007 1:41 pm

Bottom line Smeg, lad, if you're dating someone that other guys are not interested in, you've got big problems. Since you've managed to pull a bird that at least one other het male--although your description of him makes one wonder--would consider knobbing, you've done reasonably well for yourself.

BUT, you'll ruin every relationship/affair/sex romp you're involved in if you worry about the other guys who are attacted to your girl. You'll look like either an over-aggressive headcase or a sniveling big girl's blouse. Either way, she'll f.uck you off fast. So, having a quiet word with the competition or rearranging his face won't solve the thing because both are the actions of a desperate man who's scared of losing his girl.

Instead, be confident. Walk about like your c.ock's tucked into your sock tops and there's not a man in the world that could interfere with you and your lady. She may drop you for him anyway but at least you haven't looked a p.ussy in the process. Hell, you might even get her friends approaching you to offer "sympathy". :cool:

by **account deleted by request** » Sun Feb 25, 2007 1:48 pm

Dump her now smeg, you should never go out with a beautiful girl, cos if she leaves she will break your heart. Get yourself an ugly girl with a great personality. She may leave you as well ,but who gives a fk shes ugly

by **sophe_lfc_4_lyf** » Sun Feb 25, 2007 1:53 pm

Aww thats so nice saint

haha

by **account deleted by request** » Sun Feb 25, 2007 1:58 pm

sophe_lfc_4_lyf wrote:Aww thats so nice saint
haha

Just think yourself lucky I didn't mention you by name!

Only joking Sophe

Sorry

by **sophe_lfc_4_lyf** » Sun Feb 25, 2007 2:02 pm

You mean as the beautiful one?

Haha

by **account deleted by request** » Sun Feb 25, 2007 2:11 pm

Put it this way, I think you have a great personality

by **sophe_lfc_4_lyf** » Sun Feb 25, 2007 2:13 pm

Ohh i get it
Cheeky begger

by **83-1171708240** » Sun Feb 25, 2007 2:20 pm

Hi,

I couldn’t help by cross this path and I thought I should offer you some advice, I too have had a similar problem in the past and it’s not easy to deal with especially if you aren’t used to the ‘competition’ in the first place. No matter whom you are and who you date, there will always be other people interested, other girls and boys interested in you and the same with your girlfriend. It’s easy to become somewhat jealous or behold the feeling of inferior of somebody else, I have experienced this in the past and it did me no favours whatsoever in fact it sent me into a miserable state of mind, it made me feel insecure about myself and others and trusting someone was quite an issue. These things correct themselves with experience and time no doubt (they did in my case). You see I went out with a girl a good three or four years ago now, she was someone who I and many others found attractive in more ways than one, so we started courting and then we would spend time together with friends or albeit on our own and people would flirt with her and try to woe her and I used to feel inferior, jealous and I found myself not trusting her as much as I should have done at the time and evidently I was portrayed as a control freak, a possessive person and someone who had serious issues within my own life and needless to say, I lost her to someone else and when you are going through the motions of life, it can do quite devastating things to you, but I began to realise that life is life, people come and go and friends will always matter more than girls, no matter what happens. I now have a girlfriend and she gets people come up to her in clubs and they flirt and she laughs and talks to them and occasionally she’ll flirt back, but it doesn’t bother me, because I trust her completely and that’s what you have to work at and that is what you lack due to being in the honeymoon period of your relationship.

My advice to you would be to do nothing, if it gets unbearable to watch and you feel agitated and annoyed by it, then have a word with your girlfriend, but be prepared for an argument. I certainly wouldn’t talk to him about how you feel or use any act of violence towards him or anyone else who tries to woe your girlfriend, she won’t thank you for it and the chances are it will create a wedge between you and her and she will go off with someone else. I personally believe you are worrying about nothing, she claims to be friends with him and he claims to be friends with her, they seem somewhat close and this is something you’ll have to get used to, because not only will have it have disastrous consequences on your relationships with women, it will have consequences on how you are perceived by yourself and others. If he is trying to court your girlfriend then she’ll put him straight if she likes you as much as you like her, if not then it’s not meant to be and it will be time to dust yourself off and hit the tiles in search of some fun.

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