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peewee wrote:i feel sorry for you, you seem to be some walter mitty character

  A worm called Walter ?   

LIVERPOOLANYTIME wrote:A few weeks ago in another thread (that I cant seem to find) you said something to the effect (when I double posted by mistake) of:

'Look even when he writes something short, he posts it twice to make it seem longer'

I guess the hidden knob gag wasn't appreciated after all .   

woof woof ! wrote:The 'regular crowd' turned and gave you a once-over when you walked in. Then the cute girl turned, giggling, to her friend.

You don't want to be in their crowd. Hell, you don't even like them. But the least they could have done is acknowledge you were there instead of forcing you off the curb into that puddle.

It may not be you. You may be the best at what you do - but every now and then, someone with an edge comes along. An edge you can't quantify. An edge you can't grasp. An edge you realize you may never get.

Welcome to inferiority. It goes to purpose. And is our purpose, as an individual, our own or belonging to some other power? Do we define ourselves based on what we are supposed to do, or by what we wish to accomplish, for our own goals, not goals set by society, religion, or some other prefabrication of man? Do we know, inside, who we really are, ourselves, instead of in the definitions of what surrounds us?

It is really a question of using what exists for ourselves, or defining ourselves by what exists. It is a fine line, being able to split the difference, to create our own definition within the confines of what we know. Will Smith redefined what was what. Within the confines of the rap and Hollywood societies that define and confine him, he has defined who he is, not letting everyone else define who he. And in the process, gotten "Two thumbs up, ten toes, one knee and probably and a couple of elbows.

Is my thought process affected by the music I am listening to? Of course it is. But then, my thought process is affected by everything I have taken in and processed. It is a compilation of all that I have learned and all I have created on my own from the inputs I have taken. It is this rambling collection of words I have put to paper, and the amassed amount of opinion and thought I can't hope to verbalize in any effective manner.

very elloquent woofster, im filling up here   

LIVERPOOLANYTIME wrote:yes, you are completely right, of course you are? You make me feel inferior!!!! 

LIVERPOOLANYTIME wrote:Was a double post, so i deleted the whole post, but you have to have something there, it doesnt take one letter...Clear that up for you does it??

The problem that arises from self justification is that you get two people arguing about politics (for example) both of whom have already justified that no reasonable person could oppose their position. You therefore get an irresolvable argument. This causes the debate to no longer be a search for truth or the best result and instead one of how to beat the other side.

This is not to say that these things are not sometimes useful.
For example a standard psychological trick for people with "bad" behaviours is to
Separate out the part of them that is causing the problem - give it a name (like the devil or "the alcohol" or a psychological disease etc) and then allow the person to hate it and not the rest of them. It is largely nonsense but it is a useful tool.

However if one cares one can make a reasonable improvement in regard to reducing the amount of unreliable self justification one does. It is hard but I can think of a few simple mind exercises that can help.
One example is to spend some time intentionally not saying anything one is not absolutely sure of or that could be a lie of omission. You will soon realise how difficult that is and how many things are a function of self justification.


Inferiority complex can result from three different causes: physical causes, socio-economic causes and immigration.


Physical causes

Inferiority complex resulting from physical causes is mainly because the person in question is either too short (also called the Napoleon complex), or overweight. Because of their unusual physical conditions, such people tend to consider themselves less important than other people. While some people consciously do this, many subconsciously think and behave this way. An example can be two colleagues who work in equal ranks in a company, and who are equally successful in their jobs. When their boss wants to promote one of them to a higher position, the one who is overweight (or shorter, or whatever his/her physical condition is) will tend to think that his/her colleague deserves the promotion and asserts that he simply is not as good as the colleague. As a consequence, this person will start to blame himself for not performing well in his job (even if he does work well), and will try to work harder to compensate for his lack of confidence, which is usually obvious. It may be the characteristics of his life. For instance, by attempting to build a strong reputation as dominant, virile, and masculine in the arena of sex. While perhaps, his ability to actually perform may lack in method and/or technique, the focus here, is to keep the reputation intact, not necessarily the truth about performance. He may hone his talent through many sexual contacts and, over time, adopt a pattern of approach and a technique that allows acceptance, makes him feel superior and, thus, 'in-charge'. This is the goal. Feeling as if he has accomplished control, gives him a rush of satisfaction more important than the act of sex, itself. Within this category of the syndrome, the risk of a true addiction is high. It is not enough just to be a partner in the act of sex, it is the display or the knowledge of certain others (he deems important) about the act that is important. In building such a reputation, in his mind, he has conquered in an area of his life that is important to the male world.
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Socio-economic

Another common cause of inferiority complex is coming from a lower or lower-middle socio-economic class. This could occur in people, who work for higher-class families or who are often exposed to the lives of higher-class people in daily life. Seeing other people living in higher standards, the person starts to blame himself for not being able to provide his family the same comfort of life. Not only the person feels inferior to higher economic-class people, but a feeling of anger is also usually attached. As a consequence, whenever this person has the opportunity to hinder activities of other people, s/he will subconsciously unleash the desire to do this.
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Immigration

This kind of complex occurs in people who immigrate to other cities, regions, or countries. While it is more commonly observed in people who immigrate from a lower-life-standard area to a higher-life-standard area, it is also occurs in reverse situations. In the former case, the inferiority complex manifests itself in one of the two extremes: he/she could either feel an animosity towards the natives, and always hang out with other immigrants, especially from his own country if possible, or he could try to impress the natives as much as possible because of the thought that a lower-life-quality in his country means that he is a lower person. In the former case, the individual, whenever there is an opportunity, boasts about his native country in order to give people the impression that he is as important as the other people around. In the latter case, the person does the opposite: he never likes to mention about his home country, tries to lose his identity, and overimitates the natives' life styles. Whenever he sees other immigrants from his native land, he tries to avoid them. This is because of the thought that spending time with other immigrants will prove him to be a failure in integration to the society of the new spaces.

Do that help ?         

LIVERPOOLANYTIME wrote:i suck co'ck

thats nothing to be proud of 

i prefer women, but hey, each to their own